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Use the Push and Pull Technique to Instantly Attract Any Woman

Are you a salesman?  If you are, you'll recognize this technique right away.  It's a standard technique used in making a sale, but with the twist of making yourself more attractive to the opposite sex.

Let's say you meet a woman for the first time.  You've already gotten past the introductions and are getting to know each other a little better.  You're flirting a little and developing a chemistry between each other while talking. 

There's a place in this 'conversation' where you begin leading up to the next level, such as getting her number, a date, or begin kissing.  However, this is the spot where you change your strategy.

Put this picture in you mind.  You're at that critical point of progress, but instead of gratifying her desire to kiss, get a date, or whatever, you look at her and say that you're sorry, but you have to get back to your friends.  Then, being totally relaxed, get up and tell her that you'll see her again in a while.  Make sure that you keep eye contact while doing all of this.

She'll either be stunned or start trying to keep you with her.  But, keep moving.  Be nice, but continue to make your exit.  Go on back to your friends and get on with whatever their doing.  At this point, you can even talk to another girl; however, you might want to practice this technique a few times before doing that. This is a potent technique, so use caution.

This will drive her crazy.  She's going to ask herself why you're not with her anymore.  She'll even try to get you attention.  Her mind will be filled with thoughts of you.

Later on, go back and see her again.  You'll probably have to go through a few preliminary steps to regain some ground, but don't be surprised if these are cut very short and you're back talking intimately with her again quickly.  Now that you're back with her, she's going to do whatever she needs to do to keep you there.  Her goal is to build your attraction to her. 

That's it in a nutshell.  By using this technique, you make yourself highly desirable prize that she wants.  Instant attraction is that easy.

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How important is instant chemistry with a date? Read on...?

I am recently divorced, and have just barely gotten out into the dating world. A childhood friend, who is two years older than me, just got divorced, heard I was divorced and looked me up. We grew up pretty much as family, we lived next door to each other and me and his little sis were best friends. We have VERY similar family backgrounds and he is a great guy. He's fun, funny, down-to-earth, a good father to his children, a hard worker and a gentleman. We went out once since our divorces and I was really, really hoping there would be some sort of connection since we are older. But he still feels like a big brother to me. Actually when I was first seperated he was the first person I thought of..."gee, I wonder if --- is still married." My mother says to give it some time and maybe I'll feel different. But I don't want to lead him on. I'm 36, btw. Should I take it slow and see what happens or if there's no chemistry now, will it not work no matter what?

For starters, the characteristics he HAS are much better indicators of a successful long-term relationship than sexual chemistry. (Want proof? How long have you known this guy? How long were you married? Which number is higher?)

So here's the thing: you don't think of him sexually because you never HAVE thought of him sexually. That doesn't mean you CAN'T -- it just means you HAVEN'T. So you need to see if you can. And the best advice I was ever given about romance applies here for you: "Feelings follow actions."

He's a longtime friend, right? You trust him, right? Then here's what you do: keep seeing him. Do things together and think about how much you enjoy being around him. Make a point of doing little, affectionate things to and for him -- hold his hand, lean up against him when you're sitting at the movies, go slowly but begin putting in the signals that suggest physical intimacy. And when the time is right, try a kiss -- a real kiss, not a peck on the cheek.

To be really fair, you might mention to him that you've spent your whole life NOT thinking of him romantically, and you're trying to see whether or not it's possible to shift your thinking. That way if you're in a two-minute lip-lock and he starts breathing heavily and you pull away and he's still your third-grade best friend's big brother... well, if nothing else you'll find out whether he's really a gentleman by how he handles that news.

So I'm not suggesting you two sign up for a kinky sex weekend at a waterbed motel (though it'd certainly prove the point one way or the other!) But you need to start adding some romantic, affectionate behavior to your relationship with him and see whether that wakes up something in you.

Because the truth is, somebody who has all the characteristics you describe is a MUCH better candidate for a long-term relationship than a guy who gives you butterflies and not much else. And I'll bet you know EXACTLY what I'm talking about if you're recently divorced.

For the record... when I met the woman I would later marry, she had a boyfriend and I had a girlfriend. We were part of the same group of college pals for three years before the boyfriend/girlfriend merry-go-round finally lined us up together. Of course, it was slightly different, because we were in our early 20s, and even though I'd been trying not to think of her sexually for the past three years, well, I was a 20-something guy and she was this incredibly hot 20-something babe, and even though we were going out with other people for most of the time we were friends, I'd never REALLY been able to ignore that aspect of her, I just hadn't acted on it.

But why this might be a real message of hope for you is that this all happened for me just over 30 years ago, and I'm still married to the same woman. All the reasons we liked each other before I kissed her still apply -- actually, she sounds a lot like the guy you're talking about: fun, funny, down-to-earth, a great mother to our children, and a hard worker. (I draw the line at "gentleman," though!) Once we started thinking of each other sexually, and acted on it... it was magic. It was like, here's my best friend, the one I can count on for anything, and on top of everything else we're having earth-shattering sex!

And still, for all that, what gets us through time and time again is that deep down, we really LIKE each other. We trust each other, we care about each other, we know we can really depend on each other. I still feel that I'm in love with her (I have to sleep with my back to her because if I turn to face her, I can't stop thinking about how wonderful it is to have my arms around her all night, and I can't fall asleep), but it was enjoying being together that got us to the point that we decided to try the whole kissing thing in the first place.

So that's where you need to take it next. See if "the whole kissing thing" works for you -- but gradually. Warm up to it naturally, with little intimacies that are genuine expressions of how close you've been with him for such a large part of your life, but begin to notice him as a grown man, and yourself as a grown woman. You may be surprised what happens when you open your thoughts, and your heart, to somebody you know and trust.

All the best!

John Wall and JaVale McGee - Instant Chemistry

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